Sailing the Ship of Friends
Often, when I'm feeling alone, I like to keep moving. Specifically, I like to go for walks. Well, first I drive to a place I've either 1) never been OR 2) always go.
It's the drive before the walk that allows me to let go of the day and absorb the night. These walks of mine always happen at night. I feel like that's an important detail. Don't ask me why.
So this is the state of affairs that brought me to Center City Philly the first Friday night in November.
As I roamed Old City, a place I once lived, I found myself replaying some of the interactions with various people I'd had up to that point in the day. When my mind settled on one of the day's conversations--I don't remember which--I distinctly recall feeling a rising tide of frustration. And while I'm sketchy on the details of the conversation which sparked these thoughts, I know precisely what frustrated me that evening, because it's something that consistently frustrates me to no end: the realization that most people seem to have no handle on what it means to be "a good friend." Not that I feel that I have a monopoly on the definition. It's just that I feel that people throw the term "best friend" around like it's a hacky sack, with little to no thought about how their use of the term speaks volumes about what they value in terms of human interaction.
So, you guessed it. I'd like you to weigh in on the subject. What does it mean to be "a good friend"? Who's your best friend? Has that changed? Do you often change "best friends" or is it a pretty steady position in your world?
Be specific, cite examples and do your best to arrive at a definition. But DON'T consult a dictionary. If you absolutely can't resist the temptation to chew on someone else's thoughts on the subject, I'd like you to google quotations on friendship and tell me if you come across one that sums up your views on the topic--or one that doesn't if playing devil's advocate is your thing. Share the quote with us and connect it with your response. Don't rush your thinking. Let it marinate...
It's the drive before the walk that allows me to let go of the day and absorb the night. These walks of mine always happen at night. I feel like that's an important detail. Don't ask me why.
So this is the state of affairs that brought me to Center City Philly the first Friday night in November.
As I roamed Old City, a place I once lived, I found myself replaying some of the interactions with various people I'd had up to that point in the day. When my mind settled on one of the day's conversations--I don't remember which--I distinctly recall feeling a rising tide of frustration. And while I'm sketchy on the details of the conversation which sparked these thoughts, I know precisely what frustrated me that evening, because it's something that consistently frustrates me to no end: the realization that most people seem to have no handle on what it means to be "a good friend." Not that I feel that I have a monopoly on the definition. It's just that I feel that people throw the term "best friend" around like it's a hacky sack, with little to no thought about how their use of the term speaks volumes about what they value in terms of human interaction.
So, you guessed it. I'd like you to weigh in on the subject. What does it mean to be "a good friend"? Who's your best friend? Has that changed? Do you often change "best friends" or is it a pretty steady position in your world?
Be specific, cite examples and do your best to arrive at a definition. But DON'T consult a dictionary. If you absolutely can't resist the temptation to chew on someone else's thoughts on the subject, I'd like you to google quotations on friendship and tell me if you come across one that sums up your views on the topic--or one that doesn't if playing devil's advocate is your thing. Share the quote with us and connect it with your response. Don't rush your thinking. Let it marinate...
a best friend. someone you’d go to all ends of the earth to make happy, someone that doesn’t let you struggle alone but with you, someone that can make you laugh and smile unconditionally, without judgement, a best friend is someone that really gets you. There’s a letter published on thought catalog and i refer back to it all the time. Shauna shared it with me and it literally describes our entire friendship, to sum it up if one person can write a letter to their best friend and it applies to me and other groups of best friends. then I must be defining those two words the right way. (https://thoughtcatalog.com/ )
ReplyDeletethere’s only one person i could ever title as my best friend. my number one , most absolute best friend ever is shauna. i was her first best friend in mays landing when she moved here in first grade, we used to sit underneath the picnic table at shaner and build castles out of the dirt. she’s really the only one i could ever see myself truly growing up with. As our friendship began so did a bond between our parents so it’s like we’re stuck as friends. She’s the only one that knows the real me, she knows every single thing i’ve ever done, and every last detail about me. Never once have we fought or even got on each others nerves, matter of fact since 2008 when she walked into my life she’s brought extreme joy into my life. we’ve both seem to have shitty lives and lots of problems but there’s no one i'd rather have by my side. i sat with her and helped her come out in seventh grade, i held her hand when she was depressed, i helped her deal with family problems and she’s helped me with so much starting when i lost my stepdad and most recently helped me with all the troubles ive been in. shes really the only friend ive ever had thats remained loyal.
I have lots of experience with bad friends too, people that use me and walk all over me, or leave me for someone else, its really kind of sad. Its almost as if they wouldnt know what a good friend was if it smacked them in the face. I’ve gone through hell and back yet i still seem to put other people's problems before my own, im used when someone needs a person to talk to or for advice but no one's ever actually there for me. I had a friend this year, that i basically housed, fed, and considered her family, matter of fact she was with me through the entire time my grandmom had cancer, even the day my grandmom died, she promised me she'd never leave my side and that we would get through this together, to later on tell me that i couldn't be the center of her attention anymore because she had a boyfriend. This has happened to me so many times by more than one people. And me being the good friend i am, i always take them back when they need me.
I've had quite a few best friends for many years: Isiah, Zach, Titan, Tyler, Alias, and Gabe. We all had a splendid friendship, although not all of them were friends with each other or even knew one another. Sometimes people found it odd that the majority of my friends were boys, excluding Angelina, of course. One of my friends, the magnificent William Ray Pierce III (yes, that's his real, full name, and he was never shy about saying it), would tease me that Isiah and I had feelings for each other. That was never true, of course, so after William said that, we would proceed to mauling him with erasers and crumpled up paper- I mean we told him it wasn't true. Yeah, we handled it very maturely. Isiah was one of my closest friends, probably the second or third closest, I'd say. We hung out at school as much as possible, since he lived pretty far away from my house. I remember my mom driving me a long distance just to give a big box of Pixie Stix to Isiah and his family as a gift (and totally not because I got sugar highs). Unfortunately, Isiah left to a new school when he moved further into Norfolk, Virginia.
ReplyDeleteAlias was my only best friend who lived right around the corner in my neighborhood. A lot of times he'd ride his bike over to my house and we'd watch movies and do our homework together or play outside. One time, when I was crying for some absurd reason, Alias suddenly appeared in my room looking very confused. All he did was sit down next to me and we watched Marmaduke together and I felt better. Alias definately lived very differently than I did in Virginia. His house was a lot bigger, and he had a lot of adult siblings who lived there with him. For the longest time, I thought his big sister was his mother. When I saw his real mother, I couldn't help but be startled at how old she was; she looked like a grandmother to me, not to be rude. His backyard was small, but held something very surprising: a chicken coop. It wasn't common for a family living in the suburbs to have a chicken coop (or a "mini farm", as I called it) in their backyard.
The first time he showed me, all I saw were two chickens. He said they used to have a turkey (...."used" to...), but it disappeared. I do recall my mom driving me home one time and seeing Alias and one of his brothers chasing a turkey down our street for a while.
One last thing, though. When I was in 8th grade, my family rented out my Uncle's house until we could move up to New Jersey. My Uncle's house was in Norfolk, so I had to transffer schools and attend a different one temporarily. Uncle's house was awesome (and still is), but the neighborhood was....questionable.
All I'm going to say is there were drug dealers at my bus stop and they did NOT look happy.
I only had to attend Blair Middle School for month (my temporary school), and made some really nice friends there, who I miss dearly. I was supposed to leave for New Jersey in roughly 4 days in November, and I was so excited to leave and get a real house and permanent school (sort of). I was doing my usual thing, going to my locker and heading to my Civics and Economics class when I heard a deep voice call out, "Lan?"
Now, Lan is a nickname I'm trying to get rid off. Only my mother and older sisters use it. I don't like it when people make fun of it, even though there are currently some other irritating students making fun of my real name. I had been replacing my old nickname with May, 'cause apparently it's soooo much easier for everyone.
It turned out to be Isiah, and he sure did look different. We hugged, talked a little, and I told him the upsetting news about me having to leave in a few days. That lasted a good few minutes, and I forgot to ask for his number, so now I have no contact with him. But all of my best friends have been wonderful to me, even if they are no longer with me. I do believe I have one very special best friend, but I'd prefer to keep it secret for now.
Throughout my life I’ve had my fair share of bad friends, so it took me a long time to figure out what it means to be a good friend. So my definition of a good friend is weirdly specific, it's hard for me to break it down into a simple sentence. My definition of a good friend is someone who gets me, is there when I need to talk, encouraging, defensive and someone who understands personal space. When I mean personal space I mean when I look like I don’t want to talk, knowing how to properly deal with that. Everyone has moment when they are just in a horrible mood, and want nothing to do with people. To me a good friend is someone who understands that and someone who isn’t pushy with information. Like they understand if I don’t want to spill any tea yet or want to keep an experience to myself. I have two best friends are Kayla and Jazlyn we are three best friends, as in Kayla is Jazlyn best friend, we all call each other best friends is what I am saying. It has changed once throughout the years, I have been friends with Kayla and Jazlyn for about four years, Two years before them I met someone else who proved to be toxic in my life personally. So when it hit ninth grade I got really busy and I guess she didn’t feel like waiting around, so we stopped talking. I thought we just drifted apart and we were cool but she ended up writing some rude stuff to me and then deleting it. But anyway she got dropped off at around the middle of my freshman year, and life moved on and I kept Jazlyn and Kayla. I also have a best friend unrelated to the other two named Sarah, she goes to a christian retreat called spruce lake every year. Even though she lives about 2 or so hours away, we stay connected. We see each other about twice a year. That is really the only time I switched best friends. Excluding the fact that I moved to Mays Landing in third grade and left two of my best friends behind. Two quotes that I think describes friendships well is “The biggest ingredient in a best friend is someone whose actions you respect and who you can truly be yourself around.” ( Renee Olstead) and “The strong bond of friendship is not always a balanced equation; friendship is not always about giving and taking in equal shares. Instead, friendship is grounded in a feeling that you know exactly who will be there for you when you need something, no matter what or when.”( Simon Sinek) . Being a good friend is a lot about allowing someone to be the way they are without judgment. Even if you do judge their actions sometimes, just not outright attacking them. Also being able to respect their actions and if their actions turn out to hurt them, be their to help them pick themselves up.
DeleteWhat is a “good friend”? This is a question that can be defined 1,000 ways. My definition of a good friend is someone that you feel comfortable with knowing they won’t judge you, but instead build you up.Euripides, a greek poet once wrote “Friends show their love in times of trouble, not in happiness”. I agree with this because then you can see who really cares about you and is there for you . A good friend is a person that you can trust. Growing up I had different friends than I have today except for a few. It’s crazy how the people you thought you would spend your life with drift away and go a different path. When you reach High school you start to find out who you are. Looking back now I realize that my friends now are different than they were freshman year. Sophomore year I found myself in a group of girls that I never really spoke to except for like 2 of them. Now they are my best friends and I don’t know what I would do without them. They are all such positive people and fun to be around. They also are great at giving advice. When we all come together it creates the best memories and there is never a dull moment. They are the people I will cry about when I have to go to college, but also the people that I know I’ll stay in contact with. Andrea, Maddie, Kayli, Lah’nasia, Alana, Maddi, and Mckenna are my whole hearts and I’m so glad I have meant them. I believe the people we meet throughout our lives are some what meaningful. Even if we know it or not they shape us into the people we are today and we learn valuable lessons from them.
DeleteA good friend is someone who will make you feel as though you aren’t a bother to them. If you have a problem, they set aside time to help you. In Divergent, one character sums up the dedication of friendship as “I have your back. I didn’t mean only when it’s easy. All the time.” You don’t feel like you have to watch what you say around them or have the fear of being yourself.
ReplyDeleteI think of my best friend as someone who I chose to keep in my life. There are some people who come in and out of my life, many times I don’t mind. Although my best friend is the person that I feel if she left, I’d probably go into a deep depression. I can’t pinpoint when we met or became friends but our connection has been strong ever since. So for the past few years Bre has been my go to person. When I need to vent or rant, she hears it all. And honestly I’m jealous that she has such an amazing person like me in her life :). I’ve had best friends in the past, however they’ve been brief and not as deep as me and Bre’s friendship. As Stephanie Perkins explained it in her novel Anna and the French Kiss, I feel like Brielle’s “friendship alone has strengthened me in a way no one else’s has”.
I and those little things turn into big things, and then those big things turn into silence. I’ve seen this happen with every person I’ve ever been close with, sometimes you work things out and sometimes the silence lasts forever.
ReplyDeleteA best friend isn’t just someone you share memories and clothes with, a best friends is someone you can share your deepest darkest secrets and thoughts with. Everyone has something they need to talk to someone about but it’s difficult to find people you can confide in. Sometimes this is because you can’t trust that they won’t run their mouth, or at times it’s because they never choose to confide in you. A lot of the time we regret to tell people things because we fear their reaction. A best friend should be honest, but should always support your decisions.
I had a best friend and I was always there for her and up until a few months ago she was always there for me. We told each other everything; the second something new and exciting or completely awful happened, it was in our messages. Like most high school girls at some point, this friend had a boy she kept going back to after he cheated on her. Every time she cried over him I told her to cut him off because she didn’t need him. However, she always went back to him and because I was her best friend I supported her and I was there for her, while I also made it known I didn’t agree with her decision. In the end of the day I wanted her to know that she can always come to me to talk about her relationship problems, I’ll continue to give her the same advice however she is an independent person so it up to her if she wants to take it. You can’t tell people how to live their life sometimes time you just have to be there for them. I know what this is like because I’ve also been in her position and I didn’t listen to my friends advice either, and when things went down hill I couldn’t text her to vent because she eventually “didn’t wanna hear it”. Pretty soon she didn’t wanna hear anything I had to vent about at all and that’s when we fell off.
A best friend is someone you can always count on for a good time but also someone you can always talk to about anything.
I’m just now realizing that somehow the beginning part of this blog got cut off when I copy and pasted it. Here is the first sentence or so: “I don’t have a best friend. Throughout my life I’ve called a lot of people my best friend, but then sometimes little things get in the way.”
DeleteWhat it means to be a good friend is to be able to be more than an acquaintance, being a good friend means that you have to have a few important qualities and traits of someone that cares. Some of these traits of a good friend should be reliability, a good listener, and a really big one being able to be trustworthy. A good friend should be reliable they should be there during the good times and the bad times supporting you through whatever you do and whatever happens, you should also be there support system, there link to lift them up when things go wrong. You also have to be trustworthy and let them spill whatever is on their mine to you, which is where listening and being able to solve their problems is one of the key qualities of being such a good friend. The last time I had a best friend it was awhile ago like in elementary school when life was so easy, even though me and this friend have grown distant and we don’t spend as much time together as we use to when we were kids and before I moved. Although despite all of that, we still check up on each other regularly and see how things are doing and sometimes reminisce about the good old days when we see each other on rare occasion. When me and him were really close he was my only best friend I only had one and no others, even though I had a couple close second places nobody could take his first place spot no matter how hard they tried..
ReplyDeleteBeing a good friend is being reliable, trustworthy, supportive, and most importantly having your friends best interest at heart. My best friend is my mom. I know that sounds cliche but I really do feel as though my mom is my ultimate best friend. She has been one of the few people in my life that has not switched up on me and because we are so much alike it gets hard to get along occasionally but most of the time it is a great feeling to have someone like that in my life, she’s my twin. Friends come and go but my mom has never left my side as a friend and a mother. She’s my world and without her I really don’t think I would be nearly the person I am today. “I may not always be there with you but I will always be there for you.” (By Unknown) This quote perfectly explains the relationship my mother and I have because she works a lot she is not with me at all times but when I need anything I know I can just text her or think in a situation “what would my mom say/do?”. I don’t think anyone understands the connection me and my mom have I am so grateful for her even when she’s a little moody. Growing up she kissed my “boo boos”, now she helps mend my broken hearts and it is safe to say that in the future she will always be with me even if she is no longer physically with me. Lately we haven’t been getting along the best and that makes me sad (I think we just need a girls day) but I know that she will forever be my bestfriend and my whole heart.
ReplyDeleteA good friend is someone who supports you when you’re at rock bottom with the same energy that they support you with when you feel on top of the world. A good friend shows you that you can trust them without question. A good friend tells you the truth, no matter how bad it may hurt your heart. A good friend will be there for you and love you always, and will make sure to love you a little more on your bad days.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend has always been my mom. Her and I have gone through hell and back together and no matter what, I’ll always have her back and I know she’ll always have mine. When it comes to the special people we cross paths with in our lives, I look to Kayla; Kayla is that person. My mom & Kay are my #1 supporters through everything and I couldn’t be more thankful for not only the relationships I have with each of them but for the relationship they have. This year, I learned that the first few people we consider our “best friends” are lessons. I’ve only considered two other people from my past as a best friend. The first girl and I drifted apart when we got accepted into separate high school magnet programs, but the second girl taught me the most about being a good friend, and that she was far from one. Because of her, I now know what a bad friend is. Everyone is put into our lives for a reason, and I’m forever thankful for my blessings as well as my lessons.
A good friend is someone who is there for you during good and bad times. They show up when they say they will and they have a good grip on who you are, your likes and dislikes. Most likely your family knows them or whomever is important to you does. Good friends can agree to disagree and still be there for one another. They stick up for you and aren’t afraid of others knowing that you’re friends. A best friend knows you like the back of their hand. You’re like two sides of a coin and you are most definitely family; blood or not. My best friend happens to be my sister. When I was younger I didn’t really have a crazy amount if friends so usually the person I saw the most was my best friend. I’ve had four in my life. The first three weren’t really good friends. My sister is a great friend. We listen to each other and push each other to be better. We also can be couch potatoes together and discuss the fact that we probably shouldn’t be procrastinating this much. She is my rock. We don’t tell each other everything, but we are up front with one another. As for how often my best friend changes, it doesn’t really. My first and second best friends moved away. Location wasn’t the only issue because location isn’t enough to kill a friendship, but mentally we grew apart. My third best friend left me in the dust. A lot. She was my closest friend but i was just another pawn in a game of chess and was only called upon when useful. Simply put, I was a disposable source of entertainment. After a while I figured that out. Then my sister came along. We had never been crazy close but we looked out for one another and she was a good friend to me all my life despite our differences. Now she is the person that helps me in the tough times but also the one that comes up with the brilliant idea to eat and nap. We just click. Do we argue? Sometimes. Do we agree to disagree and move on in life? Absolutely because at the end of the day she’s always there for me as I am for her. The relationship between us is healthy. There is genuine care which has become very rare as I get older… and I’m only 16. People really aren’t the best. I found a person that has literally been with me since day 1, through thick and thin, never judges me, but always gives me great advice. So my best friend is my sister. I’m proud of that. Family can also be friends.
ReplyDeleteFriendship, to me is one of the most important things in life. We all need someone who loves us, supports us and comforts us when we’re down. And I’m happy I get to have this. In fact, right next to my family, my friends are what i cherish most in my life. But there’s always that one good or best friend you feel comfortable with, someone who you know you can tell anything to and that that person will never judge or tell anyone about your secrets. I think trust is one of the top qualities one needs in a friendship. I think there also has to be some common interests, but then again, you can’t both like exactly the same things or the friendship wouldn’t be as interesting. When you get in a fight with your best friend I think that you need to be in a friendship where you know that this person, no matter how mad you two are you’ll always end up sorting it out. And this person no matter what will always be there for you. If something’s upsetting you, your friend should always be able to make you smile, to cheer you up. Then again we come back to trust, which to me, like I said is the most important quality in a friendship. If there’s secrets, no trust I don’t think the relationship would be able to maintain itself.
ReplyDeleteI believe a best friend is you number one go to person. Who you can absolutely trust with almost everything. They should be never betray you, and you should love them in every way besides sexually(unless your best friend becomes your significant other). You two should always know that you’re best friends, and no one can come between that. I’ve had the same best friend for about 4 years now, Victoria Herring. I don’t throw around the term best friend. If you’re my best friend, then you’re the only one, and it will be for a while. Who’s my best friend right now will most likely change. We are both set for different paths in life which has been known from the start. I love learning new things, and want greatness, already planning my future, she doesn’t know what she was to do with her life, and struggles with school. You can’t throw around the term “best friend” it can’t just be given to anyone. A best friend would never purposely portray you, or lie to you, and if you two are basically the same person in two different bodies then they’re your best friend. I think I’ve reached the stage in my friendship where it’s starting to crumble due to people changing. I’ve lost the flare in my friendship, but it didn’t kill it, we took the spirit out of the friendship. She got a Boyfriend and started lying about little stuff, and did one too many things to upset me. Saw in turn I killed the emotional communication in our friendship. I no longer allowed myself to be hurt by her words or actions, or really anything sneaky she did, I just let her be her and treat her like she’s someone else, who I’m not close with. We still consider each other best friends, but the friendship is holding on by the fact that we’re neighbors, and our lives are connected, but once I move soon into a new place in Mays Landing our friendship will almost die, college will kill it, then I’ll be happy because now I can meet someone else, and we’ll be best friends, and hopefully they’ll be a little more perfect then the last.
ReplyDeleteA good friend is there, no matter what. I believe if anyone was ever really a “good friend” no matter how out of touch they got or how big of an altercation they had, they’d always be there for that other person and be true to them. I’ve never had a best friend where I was their go to and they were mine. I’ve honestly been jealous of my friends before because they had that number one and I didn’t. The closest friend at the moment would be Madison Scafario but I wouldn’t call her my best friend and I know I’m not hers but she would be the closest I have. I tell her almost everything and I feel as though she does the same. I have yet to befriend someone who I can share every part of myself with. No matter who I’m talking to I have at least a thin filter and I believe that that is quite unhealthy for me or anyone who does the same. The only other person I may consider my best friend would be my older sister yet even with her, I keep things to myself. I don’t know when or if I’ll find someone I can fully and wholeheartedly open up to and be myself with. I don’t believe I need a best friend or even want one as much as I used to but that’s okay because I know I’ll be just fine without one.
ReplyDeleteAs I looked up “ cute friendship quotes” in google partly because they are all aesthetically pleasing though at the same time rather insightful I realized there is no one definition for ‘best friend’. The definition will vary person to person because a ‘best friend’ is who you need them to be not some cute tumblr-esque quote. For me a ‘best friend’ is someone who I feel totally comfortable to be myself around and not have worry about being judged, someone who lifts me up when I’m feeling down, someone who will tell me the truth and not just what I want to hear, someone who I can laugh uncontrollably with me at one moment then have serious life talks the next minute and finally someone who puts in an equal amount of effort into the relationship as I do. I’ve only had two ‘best friends’ in my life. My first ‘ best friend’ and I have known eachother since I was two months old though as we got into middle school we started drifting away we never got into any argument though life got busy and we didn’t see each other very often. I still considered this person a friend and know that I could go to them with any problem. I hope to rekindle our friendship this year It’s something I have always thought of though was nervous to do so. My second ‘best friend’ is keegan. We we’re inseparable when we were in middle school though things have changed a little. We no longer go to the same school and I feel like we are drifting apart. I try to make an effort to reach out but sometimes I feel like she isn’t making as much of an effort and has more time for her new friends. I know I should talk to her about it but I feel stupid as she’s made many new friends in high school and I feel as though I don’t have many. I mean yeah people are nice to me and I have other friends but no one who I can really be my complete self around. In my opinion friendships are the best yet most confusing thing but are very rewarding when you put the work into them.
ReplyDeleteMy mom is probably always the first person to say, “Y’all throw around friend too much. They’re not really your friend, just your acquaintance. Barely that. You’ll be lucky if you have two or three true friends that stick around…” While I have had that one friend my age who has been with me for many years, my best friend in the whole world was always my big sister. I told her almost everything, I was with her all the time, and she had a huge hand in raising me into the person I am today. We had everything a good friendship should have: trust, communication, love, common interests, loyalty, and a level of understanding. What I value in friendship is pretty similar to what I value in a romantic relationship, which makes sense because I think you can’t truly be romantic with someone until you guys are friends. But anyway, back to the point. I mentioned my sister being my best friend in the past tense because a few years ago we had a falling out. She didn’t understand me and sort of broke my trust, I couldn’t bring myself to want to tell her everything that went on in my life because things like that didn’t feel safe with her anymore. So many crucial things we used to have were sort of corroded, and still are to this day. It’s partially my fault because I went into a shell and left her in the dark, essentially breaking our friendship. While she will always be my sister and someone I love more than almost any other person in the world, we aren’t best friends any more. We aren’t really friends at all. It’s sad because she was the person that truly showed me what friendship is. I don’t have any quotes because I only have her actions to go by. Maybe I’ll be able to take what I learned and rekindle what we used to have. I can be the friend to her that she has been for me my whole life. No matter what.
ReplyDeleteI think being a good friend means you can be with them and be yourself. You can take off all of the filters and be goofy and dumb with them because they are exactly the same. You are completely comfortable with them and it doesn't even matter what you say or do because it's always a good time with them. But I also think a good friend is someone who will talk to you when you're going through tough times. Especially a person who will MAKE you talk about personal stuff because they want to help. This is important to me because I am not very confiding or comfortable with telling people about personal struggles and those people are very limited. What is also very important to me is that they are loyal and will stay with me through it all. Almost my whole life I have not been able to answer the question to who is my best friend. I feel as if that term puts someone above everyone else. I see all my friends as people I enjoy and people I want to be around. I used to have a singular best friend when I was little but they moved away and we don't see each other much anymore.
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